Hypnotherapy for Confidence and Self-Esteem
Did you know that using hypnotherapy for confidence and self-esteem can help you quieten that inner-critic, get rid of negative self-talk, and move confidently in the direction of your goals?
Those goals could be finding that special relationship, acing that job interview or presentation, or simply being able to look at yourself in the mirror and smile.
Whatever the case may be, we can work together in a safe, confidential environment, using solution-focused hypnotherapy to access your unconscious mind and help you change those unhelpful, negative thoughts about yourself (which usually aren’t’ true anyway) into thoughts that are useful, positive, and empowering.
Book your initial consultation online today or call Chris on 0785 4513 717 for a quick chat about using hypnotherapy to overcome low self-esteem and self-confidence.
Why Use Hypnotherapy For Confidence and Self-Esteem?
One of my favourite sayings is that we don’t have to believe everything we think, and this is especially important when it comes to overcoming low self-esteem and low self-confidence.
Sometimes, we think things about ourselves and our abilities that aren’t necessarily accurate, but feel that way because we’ve not only repeated them so many times that they no longer feel like thoughts at all but actual facts.
We then take this on board as our self-image, and because our subconscious mind can’t operate in a way that is inconsistent with our self-image, it slyly works to prove that the story (and that’s all it is, a story) that we’ve created about ourselves is a proven fact.
If a relationship fails or we have a run of unsuccessful dates, for example, we can easily start to tell ourselves the story that there’s something wrong with us and that our lack of success in romantic relationships is entirely our own fault, even though there could be any number of reasons why things didn’t work out that had nothing to do with us at all!
The more we tell ourselves that there’s something wrong with us, that we’re unlikable and unworthy of love, the more we come to act and behave in a way that’s consistent with that. That may lead to yet another rejection or setback which we then see as proof, yelling out “See! I told you I was unlovable!”
It may be that our lack of confidence or self-esteem had nothing to do with us at all. Maybe we had childhood bullies, abusive partners or family members, or others who told us so many times that we were bad, ugly, stupid, or worthless that we came to believe it. We introjected our values and conditions of worth from others and use them to create our new self-image.
Or maybe it’s the case that we used to be confident and feel good about ourselves but one bad presentation at work or at setback in a job interview made us question ourselves so much that we created an entirely new self-image, one that is entirely the opposite of the confident, self-assured one we used to hold.
How Hypnosis Helps
Although this all sounds very negative it is, in fact, a good thing.
Think about it:
If our negative self-image can be created by taking on thoughts and ideas about ourselves, then a positive self-image can be created in much the same way. All we need to do is change the thoughts and ideas around.
What’s more, if we’re going to act in accordance with our self-image anyway, then creating a new, positive self-image of ourselves as happy, confident, and capable people, then we’re going to do more things that are consistent with that and which prove to us that we really are confident and capable after all.
This is not a case of fake it til’ you make it, this is a case of making real, positive change at a subconscious level that allows you to see just how good you really are, and have been all along.
Yes, I know, this all seems easier said than done, but that’s what our hypnotherapy sessions are for.
Working together over a short period of weeks, we’ll be using a combination of modern, solution-focused psychotherapy and clinical hypnosis. The solution-focused techniques help you to visualize and create your new self-image and come up with goals that you’d like to achieve with your new-found confidence and self-esteem.
The hypnosis guides you into a gentle, relaxing trance which we can use to talk directly to your subconscious mind, reinforcing all the good work we’ll have done together and ensured that, from now on, your subconscious mind acts in a way that is consistent with your new positive, confident, and capable self-image.
What’s the Difference Between Self-Confidence and Self-Esteem?
When we talk about self-esteem, we usually mean how we feel about ourselves, how we rate, value, and measure our worth.
When we talk about self-confidence, we’re generally talking about our belief in our abilities, whether that’s in a particular skill (public speaking or sports, for example), or simply our ability to interact with others and engage with the world.
Although many people with low self-esteem will struggle with low self-confidence, this isn’t always the case. For example, people who generally feel bad about themselves (low self-esteem) can overcompensate by becoming incredibly confident in a particular area, whereas people who typically have a good level of self-esteem may find that they simply lack confidence in certain areas of their life, such as dating, taking a driving test, or performing in public.
Hypnosis can help with either or both of these things.
If you generally feel pretty good about yourself but your confidence lets you down when faced with a certain situation, we’ll work together to help you tackle that situation while feeling calm, relaxed, and in control.
If you’re struggling with low self-esteem and it’s preventing you from enjoying health, happiness, love, and joy, then we can help you to improve your self-esteem and start to enjoy more of the good things in life tha you truly deserve.
Will Hypnosis for Confidence Make Me Arrogant or Change My Personality?
Not at all. Hypnosis can’t change who you are as a person and won’t instill in you any personality traits that aren’t already there. It simply helps you access and use those inner-resources that were there all along but which you may not have used in some time.
I have some clients come to me because they struggle to say no to others and allow themselves to be “walked all over.” They worry that developing the confidence to say “no” occasionally means they’ll no longer be kind, compassionate people, but this simply isn’t the case.
You can still be kind and you can still retain all of the positive things that you do like about yourself (isn’t that the whole point?) while coming to understand that sometimes, the kindest thing you can do is to put yourself first so that you have more energy and resources left to care for others when the time is right.
Can You Use Hypnosis to Treat Low Self-Esteem Online?
Absolutely. If you don’t want to visit the practice, I’m happy to provide your self-esteem or self-confidence hypnotherapy programme online via Zoom.
During the COVID-19 pandemic, all sessions are taking place online.